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What To Do When Dearest Person Ignores You

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Each time someone dearest to you exhibit an ignorance towards you, we start to panic.
As we all experienced, losing a close one is never easy. Even though it is very easy to find a new friend with the internet now.
However, if you had a methodical approach towards such incident which tackle the situation and help you control your emotions.
That wait no more, we have prepared a guide on what to do when a dearest person starts to ignore you:

  1. Give the person their space:
    Sometimes, we just want to stay away from everything and spent some time with ourselves.
    Now imagine, you are in such space, and someone is constantly calling and messaging you, Won’t you be annoyed?
    Hence, the first step in such a situation is to give the other person their space. In the meanwhile, think what might have caused her to act like such.
    Many times, someone just wants to chill with themselves, so let that be.
  2. Make sure that you are ignored:
    This might seem a waste of time, but in many cases, people often assume that they are being ignored, but in reality, they are not.
    The reason behind this is the fear of being left alone and rises from previous experience where you were abandoned.
    Hence, make sure that you are being ignored, and the other person is not busy with work, stressed, or not in a mood to talk to someone.
  3. Find the reason for this ignorance:
    Now that we have established that you are being ignored for sure, the next step is to find the reason for it. Now, there is a two-step process.
    First is to think of all the recent events, small or big, that could have such an impact on their life.
    Then put yourself in their shoes and find how much that event might have hurt them. Look for every minute detail, as we never know what could be the reason.
  4. Don’t overreact:
    Whenever we feel we are being ignored, the first thought is always negative.
    We feel like that friend is never going to speak to us again, a potential partner leaving us for someone else, or a colleague asking a transfer faraway. Research shows that the majority of times, ignorance is temporary and fades out with time.
    Hence, there is a good chance, things will be normal after sometimes.
    But if you overreact, you make the situation worse and even pushed the temporary into the permanent territory.
  5. Become busy:
    Now that we have decided not to let ignorance consume you, the best way to do so is by becoming busy.
    Engage more in your hobbies, meet some old friends, watch some movies and TV series from your pending list. Do anything which will keep your mind occupied for a few days as things cool down in the other person’s mind.
  6. Try to meet face to face:
    Eventually, after some time, the other person will face you. Now they might ask for a call or text message, as you did previously.
    But in such a situation, you should meet face to face. As words alone don’t tell the whole picture, we need to see the body gesture to find what’s going on.
    So, meeting face to face or on a video call in a long-distance gives you a better chance of visualizing the problem.
  7. Be ready to apologize:
    If someone is ignoring you and the reason is definitely you or something you did. Then the only way to save the relation is by apologizing as you have already been charged as guilty in the other person court.
    If you let your ego come in, it will only make things worse. So, prepare yourself in advance on how you will apologize and the promises you will make to let them stay.
    But beware of your self-respect as it is not valuable than anything else.
    So, here is the entire guide on what you should do when someone close is ignoring you.

This is a very general guide; however, you can personalize it according to the person you are dealing with it.
For example, some people like to be pampered so messaging them throughout won’t hurt them as much. But take a calculated risk; otherwise, it will blow off.
I hope this guide saves some of your dearests from leaving you.

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12 items you use everyday but in the wrong way

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Since we were little, we have used a multitude of objects without really trying to understand how they work. These objects have entered our reflexes so that we use them without even thinking about them. One thing is certain, after discovering this list, you will no longer see these objects in the same way.

Voici 12 objets que vous utilisez tous les jours mais de la mauvaise façon.

Eat a compote without a spoon

compote

No need of a lot of toothpaste: It is enough just to put a dab of toothpaste for brushing to be effective

dentifrice

Put your spoon when cooking

pates

The TicTac box: just take it upside down so as not to have to shake the box in all directions to successfully get out a bonbo

tictac

Electric extension cords: to avoid an unexpected cut, you just need to tie a knot like this.

rallonge

Drink straw in a can without it moving in all directions

canettes

Place a pot upside down so that the oil mixes with the components

huile

Pastabox-plate

pasta

Avoid pasta water overflowing

cuillere

Better unclog sink and toilet

toilettes

Place water bottles in the pyramid fridge to save space

bouteille

Put more ketchup in the small pots by enlarging the container

ketchup

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Women Treat You How You Treat You

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We always earn what we believe we deserve even if we think we deserve better. Therefore, even a woman will treat you how you allow and train her to based on your own self-belief. Understanding this one concept is the starting point to becoming a man with strong personal boundaries. Because your reality is a perpetual and often merciless mirror of whatyou believe about yourself, you’ll never be able to change the way a woman treats you if you don’t believe that you deserve better.

The human mind functions in such a way as to attain congruence (there’s that word again). It will work overtime to close the gap between who you think you are and what your behaviors portray until the two correspond.
This is why you’re compelled to behave in a way that matches with your self-belief. As the saying goes, “you can’t hide what’s inside.” If you inwardly believe that you’re a man of low-value, just about everyone you relate with will treat you as such.

Even your adoring wife or girlfriend might find herself struggling to treat you with respect if you neglect your own well being over time. No woman wants to be with a loser (unless she’s a loser herself) and she’ll give a man hell in an effort to induce a positive change.

So what’s the solution? How does a man increase his sense of self-worth and make it difficult for anyone to disrespect him? How does a man ensure that the opinion he has of himself is worth more to him than the opinions of others? The answer is so simple it’s embarrassing to say: Develop rock-solid self-belief by becoming a better man

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Developing A Strong Frame

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As a man, one of the most powerful concepts I’ve learned is the idea of framing, the awareness that the most sacred thing about a man is the integrity of his own mind. It’s the notion that a man must have such a strong conviction of his core values that nothing in his external environment can shake him of his self-belief or remove him from his path. This is the power of a man who has full possession of his own mind.

The great, American philosopher, Ralph Waldo Emerson, wrote a powerful essay called, Self-Reliance. The following is a short passage from this essay that sums up the idea of framing and how important it is for a man to be free from the opinions of others: “What I must do is all that concerns me, not what the people think. This rule, equally arduous in actual and in intellectual life, may serve for the whole distinction between greatness and meanness.

It is the harder because you will always find those who think they know what is your duty better than you know it. It is easy in the world to live after the world’s opinion; it is easy in solitude to live after our own; but the great man is he who in the midst of the crowd keeps with perfect sweetness the independence of solitude.”

Of course, we can get deep into a philosophical discussion about the importance of not being so bullheaded and stuck in our thinking that we have difficulty gaining the support of others to truly make a difference in the world. But we won’t. I used this quote because it serves the idea of ‘framing’ perfectly in that it’s better to avoid being a slave to the opinions of others so that you can choose outside advice and knowledge much more freely.

What you think and believe about yourself, your life, your loved ones, your career, etc. should have more value to you than how everyone else views it. Passing a woman’s tests requires a self-approved frame of mind; therefore being dependent on outside opinions will only lead to failure.
You cannot lead a woman, or anyone else for that matter, if you crave being popular. To have a rock-solid, masculine frame is to commit to who you are, knowing that you’re unwilling to sacrifice who you are just to make someone else happy. Men without a strong frame may find that they often change their opinions and behaviors around different groups of people.

They are chameleons that usually aren’t sure of who they are regardless of how confident they may pretend to be on the outside. Men like this struggle the most not only with being tested by women, but being tested by life in general.
Here’s a simple example of a man maintaining his frame with his buddy: Let’s say you were going to the movies and a good friend arrived to pick you up. It’s a late showing and you decide to throw on a cap because you just love how caps look on you. Your buddy arrives, glances at you for a moment, raises an eyebrow, and asks, “You’re wearing a hat?” The subtext behind his questioning is, “Dude, there’s no sun in the movie theater. You’ll look silly. Take it off and let’s go.” A man with a weak frame might try to explain his choice of apparel. He may even feel silly and take it off.
A man with a strong frame, who’s fully convinced of his sense of style, might say something like, “And you’re not?” Boom. He re-framed the exchange to illustrate that he’s confident with his choice, he doesn’t care what anyone thinks, and most importantly, that he’s somewhat baffled as to why his friend wouldn’t wear one as well.

Men with strong frames look on the inside to see if they’re on the right path.
They often look at the outside world wondering why more people aren’t doing it the way they are. Men with weak frames do just the opposite. They are always looking on the outside as they try to do things as right and perfect as they can. And when they do look inward all theysee are the mistakes they’re making and the things that need fixing. Don’t do this. I can tell you from personal experience that this is no way for a man to live his life. So do yourself a favor and stop living in a perpetual cycle of self-doubt. It’s unmanly.

Do you now see the dangers to your relationships and the anxietyinducing stress that can come from having a weak frame as a man? Good, because so do women. And they will test the living daylights out of you until you figure out who you are as a man and confidently assert those inner convictions.
Resist the impulse to torture yourself by caring too much about what other people think of you. It’s a habit of thought, a type of mental conditioning, and just like any other habit it can be unlearned over time.

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