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Do You Have The Right To Lead Your Wife?

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A good friend of mine once told me a story about how he was rejected by an attractive girl he was interested in. The interesting part was that she was crying and obviously hurt by someone, but when he attempted to console her, her reaction to him was cold, mean, and frankly…insulting. When he explained this tale to me, I couldn’t help but wonder about the implications. Naturally, he went into a lot more detail than I just did, so I was able to analyze the situation quite in depth with him. And after a few moments of questioning and pontification, we arrived at a very simple reason why his offering of comfort was a complete turn off for her.

It’s simple: he didn’t have the RIGHT to comfort her. Before you can lead a woman she’s going to have to have some sort of trust in you. My friend, though his intentions were sincere (even though he would have used her misfortune to build rapport with her), was not the kind of man she could trust, at least not at the time of the incident.

He was weak, needy, and definitely an average frustrated chump, and she knew it. Even in her compromised position she would not allow herself to be comforted by a man who lacked the strength she craved. In short, she probably felt that he had no right (authority) to comfort her in her time of need.

Standing up to a difficult woman requires being authoritative. If she’s giving you the business, you need to be able to assert your personal boundaries naturally. A woman with a bit of experience in dealing with men isn’t going to be fooled by a one or two time occurrence. Even after you begin standing up to her, she’s going to test you, over and over again to ensure that the one time you finally defended your personal boundaries wasn’t a one off. She needs consistency from you, the type of consistency that can only come from a man who has not only learned how to exercise his authority in a relationship but he’s also learned how to be an assertive man. Being assertive to your core means that your behavior is influenced by your mindset. You’re not reliant merely on techniques.

Instead, because of your decisive, principle-led nature, you play the part naturally without much thought. This is what your woman is going to be looking for, because without consistent displays of assertiveness on your part, she’s not going to be convinced by your once-every-now-and-then acts of authority.

As you’ve probably realized by now, what she wants is congruence from the man in her life. And the best way to ensure that you’re on top of your game more often than not is to move past the point of just acting alpha and focus your energy on becoming a strong, self-assured man at your core instead. Give Up Your Need for Coddling In the event you don’t know the definition of “coddle”, it is to treat in an indulgent or overprotective way.

That means if you’re a man who needs coddling, especially from women, then in order for you to feel secure about yourself you must be treated in an indulgent or overprotective way. I remember being in junior high and I was definitely having one of those days where things just weren’t going my way. In Biology class, I had this female teacher that insisted on giving the guys in our class a hard time. She was a new teacher, and looking back I realize that what she was actually doing was testing to see which guys she had absolute authority over in our class and which of them would be more likely to give her a hard time.

On the day in question, she said something that was particularly insulting to me, in front of the entire class. I felt hurt and embarrassed and it showed. It was quite evident that she had “hurt my feelings” and she came over, put her arm around me and apologized. Yes, this actually happened in junior high school, in front of EVERYONE. Believe me, I’m cringing as I write this. So why do I bring up this dark, painful, unmanly memory that I swore to take to my grave? Well, all for your benefit. In this little tidbit from my past, it was obvious that I needed coddling.

From that moment on, she watched what she said to me not out of respect but out of pity. I got what I wanted, which was to be left alone, but it wasn’t because she respected me.

My sensitivity shone through quite easily, and the other kids in the class didn’t feel the same kind of pity for me, I can tell you that much. I’m almost sure that that one event caused a whole lot of junior high school suffering that took me awhile to correct.

Looking back, what I should have done was have an adult-like “cease and desist” conversation with her at that moment or respond with cockiness and humor. Since she was so willing to “go there” with me I should have had the guts to do the same with her. Unfortunately I didn’t, and it will forever be a lesson learned of how not to respond to unwanted jests or a woman’s tests.

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When men imitate women on Instagram

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To make fun of men, men had a brilliant idea, imitating women with the poses they adopt on their Instagram accounts.

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Women Treat You How You Treat You

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We always earn what we believe we deserve even if we think we deserve better. Therefore, even a woman will treat you how you allow and train her to based on your own self-belief. Understanding this one concept is the starting point to becoming a man with strong personal boundaries. Because your reality is a perpetual and often merciless mirror of whatyou believe about yourself, you’ll never be able to change the way a woman treats you if you don’t believe that you deserve better.

The human mind functions in such a way as to attain congruence (there’s that word again). It will work overtime to close the gap between who you think you are and what your behaviors portray until the two correspond.
This is why you’re compelled to behave in a way that matches with your self-belief. As the saying goes, “you can’t hide what’s inside.” If you inwardly believe that you’re a man of low-value, just about everyone you relate with will treat you as such.

Even your adoring wife or girlfriend might find herself struggling to treat you with respect if you neglect your own well being over time. No woman wants to be with a loser (unless she’s a loser herself) and she’ll give a man hell in an effort to induce a positive change.

So what’s the solution? How does a man increase his sense of self-worth and make it difficult for anyone to disrespect him? How does a man ensure that the opinion he has of himself is worth more to him than the opinions of others? The answer is so simple it’s embarrassing to say: Develop rock-solid self-belief by becoming a better man

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8 Characteristics Of A Healthy Personality

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A healthy personality is a blend of many tiny factors that altogether make an ordinary personality into a great healthy personality. It also shows how mentally strong one is, a healthy personality is a joyful one who wears a smile, who displays ethical moral values. Take a look below of the characteristics of a healthy personality

  1. He is Adaptable
    A healthy personality is the one who has adaptability in him, who knows how to mold himself according to the circumstances. The social environment is well dealt out by a healthy personality.
  2. He is a Good Listener
    A healthy personality always gives time others to have their say, he listens to them keenly without showing any boredom. He doesn’t just have good command on speaking; instead, he knows others also have the right to express their opinion.
  3. He is Polite
    A healthy personality is always polite in manners, no matter whom he confronts to he always keeps his tone respectful, he doesn’t react curtly with the curt ones, he maintains his individuality no matter what happens.
  4. He is Approachable
    A person who keeps a healthy person is always approachable and accommodating, he is friendly and easy-going, and people find great comfort in discussing their issues with him.
  5. He knows How to Play at Both Sides
    He is smart to play at both sides, he maintains his dignity yet he is humble and meek. He knows how to manage this balance well.
  6. He is Generous and Promising
    A healthy personality is never reluctant to admire others and their achievements, he open-heartedly appreciates others. A healthy personality is the one who knows how to keep the promises. He keeps on his words no matter what happens.
  7. He always Embraces Positive Changes
    A healthy personality always makes him-self embrace the positive changes because he knows there is no end of perfection; you can add up more to your personality no matter in which phase of age you are at.
  8. He can Stand the Difference of Opinion
    A healthy person is not short-fused when he is confronted with the difference of opinion, he stands with it patiently.
    These things prove that you have strong mental health, you don’t get biased, jealous and bitter. We should always try to make ourselves better by making positive changes in our habits.

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