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Are You A Man Who Care Too Much ?

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Can you confidently stand on stage and deliver a speech about something
you believe in, in front of an angry crowd of thousands of women who vehemently disagree with everything you have to say? It’s okay if you said, “no.” Not many men can.
Why? Well, if we take out the fear of public speaking it could simply be due to the fear of having an unpopular opinion. It could even be due to the fear of disapproval and rejection, especially by women. It could be due to the fear of being criticized and ostracized by women. Or it could be because of all these things in combination.
So what’s my point? Nice guys, male doormats, and conflict-avoidant men are petrified of being “misunderstood” or disliked, especially by women. They care too much about what people think of them and place their self-worth into the hands of the crowd. And in this case it’s a crowd of women.

It’s absolutely intolerable for a woman to be upset at them, think negatively of them, or to feel utter contempt for them. Men like this will do just about anything to avoid confrontational situations with women just to prevent the intense feelings of discomfort that come with it.

While it is important for men to be mindful of how they are perceived by their honor group (group of male friends, male mentors, etc.), it doesn’t benefit them the same way when it comes to the opposite sex. Becoming indifferent to what a woman might think of you when you act based on
your principles is one of the most powerful attitude shifts you can make
as a man. The benefits to your overall well-being will astound you, as will
the positive effect it has on how you experience a woman’s tests. When you’re not trying to read her mind to see whether or not she’ll approve of
what you have to say, you have greater freedom to act from a place of integrity.
Hyper-analyzing what a woman might think, say, do, or feel if you
behaved a certain way causes intense anxiety. Over time, such anxiety
turns into fear. The kind of fear that causes you to hem, haw, and second
guess every decision you want to make. It’s not a pretty picture to observe a man trapped in a cage of his own making as he hands over the sanctity of his own mind to a woman.

How this Behavior Plays Out ?
This sort of behavior plays out in all the usual ways that people-pleasers
display. Sometimes it’s subtle; other times it’s not so subtle, but it always
shows itself in how a man interacts with a woman. Here’s a short list of
what these behaviors look like:
· Editing your choice of words or pussyfooting with your diction so as not to displease or arouse a woman’s anger in any way.
· Making tentative suggestions to gain her approval instead of making clear statements. For example: “Honey, I’m thinking we should eat Chinese tonight.” This is a suggestion and you’re clearly waiting for her approval.
· Censoring your opinions, behavior, and even your own needs just to keep her happy and unprovoked.
· Thinking excessively about what she’ll think, say, or do if you say or do what you want to do.
· Trying to be perfect to earn the approval of others.
It’s not easy to admit that you’ve become a whipped shell-of-a-man. And it’s even harder to change what could be years of passive, peoplepleasing habits that have now defined your relationships. It is time for a change, a change in your self-beliefs that can redefine your relationships.

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When men imitate women on Instagram

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To make fun of men, men had a brilliant idea, imitating women with the poses they adopt on their Instagram accounts.

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Women Treat You How You Treat You

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We always earn what we believe we deserve even if we think we deserve better. Therefore, even a woman will treat you how you allow and train her to based on your own self-belief. Understanding this one concept is the starting point to becoming a man with strong personal boundaries. Because your reality is a perpetual and often merciless mirror of whatyou believe about yourself, you’ll never be able to change the way a woman treats you if you don’t believe that you deserve better.

The human mind functions in such a way as to attain congruence (there’s that word again). It will work overtime to close the gap between who you think you are and what your behaviors portray until the two correspond.
This is why you’re compelled to behave in a way that matches with your self-belief. As the saying goes, “you can’t hide what’s inside.” If you inwardly believe that you’re a man of low-value, just about everyone you relate with will treat you as such.

Even your adoring wife or girlfriend might find herself struggling to treat you with respect if you neglect your own well being over time. No woman wants to be with a loser (unless she’s a loser herself) and she’ll give a man hell in an effort to induce a positive change.

So what’s the solution? How does a man increase his sense of self-worth and make it difficult for anyone to disrespect him? How does a man ensure that the opinion he has of himself is worth more to him than the opinions of others? The answer is so simple it’s embarrassing to say: Develop rock-solid self-belief by becoming a better man

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8 Characteristics Of A Healthy Personality

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A healthy personality is a blend of many tiny factors that altogether make an ordinary personality into a great healthy personality. It also shows how mentally strong one is, a healthy personality is a joyful one who wears a smile, who displays ethical moral values. Take a look below of the characteristics of a healthy personality

  1. He is Adaptable
    A healthy personality is the one who has adaptability in him, who knows how to mold himself according to the circumstances. The social environment is well dealt out by a healthy personality.
  2. He is a Good Listener
    A healthy personality always gives time others to have their say, he listens to them keenly without showing any boredom. He doesn’t just have good command on speaking; instead, he knows others also have the right to express their opinion.
  3. He is Polite
    A healthy personality is always polite in manners, no matter whom he confronts to he always keeps his tone respectful, he doesn’t react curtly with the curt ones, he maintains his individuality no matter what happens.
  4. He is Approachable
    A person who keeps a healthy person is always approachable and accommodating, he is friendly and easy-going, and people find great comfort in discussing their issues with him.
  5. He knows How to Play at Both Sides
    He is smart to play at both sides, he maintains his dignity yet he is humble and meek. He knows how to manage this balance well.
  6. He is Generous and Promising
    A healthy personality is never reluctant to admire others and their achievements, he open-heartedly appreciates others. A healthy personality is the one who knows how to keep the promises. He keeps on his words no matter what happens.
  7. He always Embraces Positive Changes
    A healthy personality always makes him-self embrace the positive changes because he knows there is no end of perfection; you can add up more to your personality no matter in which phase of age you are at.
  8. He can Stand the Difference of Opinion
    A healthy person is not short-fused when he is confronted with the difference of opinion, he stands with it patiently.
    These things prove that you have strong mental health, you don’t get biased, jealous and bitter. We should always try to make ourselves better by making positive changes in our habits.

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